So, here are My Thoughts on International Women’s Day! I thought hard about sharing this blog post. Since it differs from the rest of Liz in Los Angeles’s lifestyle content. I hope you find it inspiring and gives you something to think about because that’s the goal of this blog post.
Women empowerment is a trendy topic right now. But I want us to really think about if we are empowering others or just using the hashtag #collaborationovercompetition? We are goddesses, right! And goddesses
We Got It So Good
My first thought on International Women’s Day is one of gratitude. I’m grateful to live in a country that protects women’s right. I know it doesn’t seem that way when we watch the news. I know we need a lot of improvement and changes, but I also know that we got it so good compared to so many other countries in the world. Really, good.
Why we got it good
We don’t have curfews, we can drive, and we don’t need a male chaperon when we are out shopping. I was born in a country (Iran) where women had to cover their hair from age 9+. If their hair showed a little bit, they had to fear the religious police. I bet most of you don’t know how dangerous the religious police in Iran can be! Probably, some of you haven’t even heard of “religious police” before. I remember those days and so grateful to live in this country.
It’s not just Iran. But other countries too. Even democratic ones. I visited Japan a few months ago. Women aren’t as free to express themselves as the US. For example, mothers of private school students can’t wear “loud” colors while picking up their children because it’s not ladylike. Putting on makeup on the subway is also considered unladylike. I’m so grateful to live in a country where I can wear neon pink dress while putting on makeup on the subway. They might seem like small things but make huge differenes.
Educate over blaming others
When I hear people blame the patriarchy for holding women back financially and socially, I want to remind them we can’t solely blame men for all of our problems and that they are men out there that support women wholeheartedly. Instead of blaming, why not support!
For example, when I was in my 20s I had no idea I could negotiate salaries when interviewing for a position. I thought that was the salary and that was that. Up until then, the women in the family didn’t work and the men in the family were all self-employed. So, none of them know that either. It wasn’t until years later that I learned I need to negotiate. Men were negotiating for the same position as I was applying for and getting hired with a higher salary. I’m sharing this because I’m probably not alone. There are so many other young women that also don’t know about salary negotiation and the gender investment/pay gap. My point is instead of blaming others, we should educate and mentor other women so they have the knowledge to advocate for themselvesin the workplace by
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Women Supporting Women
I truly believe when women support each other, there’s nothing that can stop them. Fortunately in the blogging world, I have come across both kinds of women. The ones that mentor and support. The ones that compete.
Unfortunately, in my corporate jobs, I came across too many women who competed instead of supporting other women. Even when they were not after the same position. It’s in the workplace that we need to show other support for another – more than anywhere else. Yet, some are still.
Drawing from my personal experience again, the pressures that I experienced at work were due to other women. I had a few managers and a client from hell who made my work life unbearable because they were intimidated by my sense of style. One started dressing like me (can you say Single White Female?) – when other employees called her on it, she tried to get me fired. When I got promoted while working on a big project, most women on the project started whispering “it’s because she’s younger and prettier”. The truth was that it was one of the clients who had recognized my hard work (even though I was less experienced the rest of the team) and SHE had recommended my promotion. So it wasn’t men that led to my hardship or promotions at work. It was other women.
Real Queens Fix Each
My goal in sharing these experiences with you is to show how as women we can impact each other’s lives. Why not support each other and help each other succeed? Those managers could have been my mentors instead. I could have learned from them instead of dreading working with them. When we support others it doesn’t diminish anything from us. It doesn’t diminish our chances. Instead, it adds to our character and accomplishments. On International Women’s Day, I encourage you to mentor and support other women. Those around you. Those who work with you. Whether older or younger. Be a leader. Be a queen.
Lead with Love
My final “Thoughts on International Women’s Day”, if you are going to be a leader or mentor to support other women, do it with love. Unfortunately, some of the “new” women right movements are led by women who don’t practice love. The Women’s March leaders refuse to publicly condemn anti-Semitism and seem to support it (which has absolutely nothing to do with women’s right). Read more here. Another group
If you are going to lead, lead with love. Because that will bring everlasting changing.
I would love to hear your thoughts on International Women’s Day.
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